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“Ides” sounds so ominous. But that’s neither here nor there.

So we’re coming up on March now, and that only means one thing: lots of reminders of my failed marriage. As you (may or may not) remember, Katsu and I got married on St. Patrick’s Day 2007. So, this time of year, reminders are everywhere. Before the wedding my mom stocked the house floor-to-ceiling with Irish Blessings and green ribbon. All my aunts bought me four-leaf-clover kitchenware. Even my own shamrock tattoo, which I got before I even KNEW Katsumi, seems to taunt me now with a hint of derision.

And yet.

I met with a couple this past Saturday who is having an Irish-themed wedding on March 9, and I felt compelled to share my own tale of Gaelic matrimony. Of course, one can’t tell that story without the punchline: “and then we got divorced”. I should be horrified – THEY were probably horrified – but truly, it was the happiest day of my life. Certainly the best St. Patrick’s Day. So why shouldn’t I share? Why should I feel this pall over everything? It happened, it was awesome, and then, like most things, it was no longer. But the echoes, the ripples, have such a large pool.

One reply on ““Ides” sounds so ominous. But that’s neither here nor there.”

It’s funny how certain days in our lives always have that “feel” to them for so many reasons. I felt that way about the anniversary for my first marriage for a few years too. Then I had a revelation about it similar to yours about how it happened and it was great while it happened but it just fell apart. Now granted my ex and I also have a child together so that’s a little different. I wouldn’t change any of it though, some beautiful things are meant to be that way eternally and some are fleeting moments in time, both beautiful moments though.

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