“Ides” sounds so ominous. But that’s neither here nor there.

So we’re coming up on March now, and that only means one thing: lots of reminders of my failed marriage. As you (may or may not) remember, Katsu and I got married on St. Patrick’s Day 2007. So, this time of year, reminders are everywhere. Before the wedding my mom stocked the house floor-to-ceiling with Irish Blessings and green ribbon. All my aunts bought me four-leaf-clover kitchenware. Even my own shamrock tattoo, which I got before I even KNEW Katsumi, seems to taunt me now with a hint of derision.

And yet.

I met with a couple this past Saturday who is having an Irish-themed wedding on March 9, and I felt compelled to share my own tale of Gaelic matrimony. Of course, one can’t tell that story without the punchline: “and then we got divorced”. I should be horrified – THEY were probably horrified – but truly, it was the happiest day of my life. Certainly the best St. Patrick’s Day. So why shouldn’t I share? Why should I feel this pall over everything? It happened, it was awesome, and then, like most things, it was no longer. But the echoes, the ripples, have such a large pool.

1 Comment

  1. It’s funny how certain days in our lives always have that “feel” to them for so many reasons. I felt that way about the anniversary for my first marriage for a few years too. Then I had a revelation about it similar to yours about how it happened and it was great while it happened but it just fell apart. Now granted my ex and I also have a child together so that’s a little different. I wouldn’t change any of it though, some beautiful things are meant to be that way eternally and some are fleeting moments in time, both beautiful moments though.


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